Week 07

Another week, another dollar, or another grade? This week has been crazy because of all the topics that we went through. We were basically talking about marriage and sex. You will see that it is an interesting topic to talk about in a religious school because it has become a taboo. And there are other things that sadly became a taboo too because people do not feel comfortable talking about. Although sex is really important to build a marriage, people do not usually talk about it at all. Anyways, Brother Williams started talking about this and there are some points that I would like to go through with you guys. The most important thing to highlight is that sex is not a taboo, and it should not be one. Sex is sacred, but not secret. Sex works for so many different things from fun and unifies the couple, until creating other human beings like us.

Can sex be for fun? Of course! Sex is essential to build a marriage and to make the couple more unified. Do you guys remember on the Relationship attachment model? The last thing on the list was to touch. Touching creates this confidence that you know the other person. This touch can sometimes lie because it will build this false confidence that you know someone even after one week. Touching is important to build a relationship once the couple is married. As long as both spouses are feeling like having sex, they can definitely go for it. It is important that both spouses want to have physical interaction. During this week's class, a person said that it is ok to say yes even if you do not want to do it because it can cause mental damage to the spouse that was rejected. I do not agree to this way of thinking because this can cause mental damage to the spouse that is pushing itself to do something that he/she does not want to do. There are so different variables for this type of issue. As I said, sex can be for fun, just like a game that needs two people to be played. I think that you need to be very humble to accept that your spouse does not want to have sex with you. But the spouse should be understandable and maybe talk to find out why the spouse does not want to have sex.

Sex can also be for creating. In the beginning, I said that sex is sacred because it is the way that God has given us to create, and it is a special power. This is even more interesting because as you all know, women go through monthly cycles called menstruation or period. It is in that time when women are very fertile and most likely to get pregnant. As you know as well, men do not have any cycle, they are always fertile, and they will always be able to ejaculate semen. But what if men and women have cycles? What if these cycles never get to be at the same time of the month? It will be so hard for that couple to have children. And even asking for these cycles would be a question to go through when thinking in getting married. This will literally be nature saying that you guys are not compatible. Is not that crazy? Many people usually say that nature is very wise, I just say that God had everything in mind.

The last interesting thing I would like to talk about is the climax. For men, it is really easy to get to the climax, but for a girl is a little bit harder. This is because women should feel very confident, comfortable, and other things. Brother Williams explained climax as sneezing because you feel that something is about to happen but instead of feeling in your nose, you feel it in all your body. It is sad to think that there are a lot of girls that have never reach the climax while having sex because they have never felt comfortable, this is something that can maybe be fix going to therapy because it is a psychological thing.

As you could see, sex is really important in a marriage. Due to all the differences between men and women, sex and all the things that come with it are even more enjoyable.