My extended Family Relations, and cool thoughts 

This week in my class I learned about the different types of relations. They are something call theories. Theories are attempts to explain a phenomenon. Now,
there are generally misinterpretations the word phenomenon, many people think it means something obscure happening like aliens. However, it simply means that that something has taken place like putting on shoes in the morning.
We use theories to explain phenomenons inside of a family structure there are many different theories such as conflict, change, system, and symbolic. To begin with a conflict theory is not as bad as it sounds, it is influencing one to another by co-existing and interacting. I personally can relate to this theory as my family has exemplified this one. Conflict theory allows couples to learn how to live with one another. It is very crucial that both partners are working towards adapting to live with one another because if one lacks on this it can deeply affect both. It is a known fact that after marriages couples beging to grow and change together. I’ve heard some about this through my own parents. They have taught me how their ideas, actions have changed for both of them since they have started living together. Since families tend to work as a unit I have noticed a change in myself and even my siblings because of our influences on each other. This theory can even extend further than just families.
I am originally from Peru, where culture is so different than the American culture. Even the layouts of the house are very different. My family and extended family live in this house each on different floors and I even live in the exact same house my mother grew up in.  Over time my family had decided to add to this house building up so we could all live close to each other. Since my family lives close together this change how my interactions and can effect thoughts and ideas from these family members too. Even from moving to the United States and living in apartments has been an example of conflict theory I have been able to live with people from all different parts and be able to live in unity sharing ideas with one another.

During this week I also learned about having friends from the opposite gender while being in a committed a relationship. In my mind I thought that these could go hand in hand with one another, after all you are just friends. However, my teacher who had been a marriage counselor and therapist for 30 years had answered this was a dangerous path. In his time he had seen many couples having issues because one partner was having an affair. In fact they were having an affair with their friend if the opposite gender. His response was very interesting it seem that every person who had the affair had the same response : "I never thought that it might happen, but he/she was so good to me, and he/she was always listening to me, and he/she really understands what I feel and has always good advice for me to feel better." For me this connection was very eyeopening in the past my girlfriend has spoken to me about having friends of the opposite gender. At the time she had claimed it was alright when you were dating however, after marriage or a very committed long-term relationship it’s no longer acceptable. At the time I hadn’t thought much on it but now I have a better understanding of it. Anyways, our teacher gave us a really good advice that I want you all to consider: "If you are getting married or planning on move-in with someone, it is because you love him/her, and they are your best friend. Having a good friend does not mean that you cannot have friends, but it means that you have someone to talk about your fears, and problems, and everything. YOU DO NOT NEED TO TALK ABOUT THIS THINGS WITH PEOPLE FROM ANOTHER GENDER because this is going to open a door and when you least expect it, you would do something that has no a turn back." I want you guys to think on this, if you are planning on spending the rest of your life with that person you love, do not spend time with friends from the opposite gender, the risk is not worth it at all.

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