Week 08

Why is money so important and why it usually gets in the middle of a marriage? Back in the days of Moses, he went to the pray to the mountain. When he was there, all his people started to build a golden calf to adore. These types of things are called pagan gods. My mom used to say that now on days we might not have any pagan god, but what we do have is money. Money is an important thing in today’s world, but for other people, money is the most important thing. People can murder or even suicide for money. Sadly, disagreement for money represents 41% of the cause of divorces in young couples and 29% in old marriages. Is money that important to finish a marriage built-in love? Apparently, money Is stronger than love. It is true that money can buy so many things, and having it is cool. But, having money does not compensate for the fact of being alone. Money is not only a motive of divorce, but it is also a cause of delaying marriage. There are many couples with almost none savings that are delaying their marriage because “money is important” It is true that you need money to buy things, but they both can work and start from the beginning. My parents are always talking to me about how poor they were when they first married. After they married, they went to live with some of my dad’s friends. Sadly, one of them had a drug problem, so he stole from my mom. When my dad realized that, he and my mom grabbed all their things and left that house. They found a place to stay, my dad borrows money from the bank, and they started to build a house. They moved there before the house was done. They only had one room and one bathroom only. My dad worked hard as a taxi driver to pay off the bank. Later, things get better, and now they are way better financially than when they started. They have always taught me that it is better for a couple to experience those kinds of things, so when things get better, they can really enjoy and understand the sacrifice of getting things. They have been married for more than 23 years now. It is interesting because my professor, Brother Williams told us a similar story that happened to him and his wife. I think that this is different because Brother Williams met this beautiful woman who was married before and had a couple kids. So they married and had to take care of 2 children. Things were ok at the beginning, but he had to go to graduated school, and he was accepted in a school in California. They only had 12 dollars and 47 cents in their pockets. They had no jobs, and they were technically starting from zero. Brother Williams worked almost 60 hours a week. Due to his classes, he could only work at night. He almost did not sleep. By not sleep I mean at all. He used to sleep 3 to 5 hours depending on the day. The most remarkable thing for me was him saying “I do not regret doing it, my marriage got stronger for this.” I personally believe that a couple does not need money to get married, as long as both want to do things right, and they both love each other. I think that these things, being poor or working hard to get the things they want, are important to make the marriage stronger and somehow will make it last longer.