Week 09

Is not it weird? I have been writing a blog every single week for nine weeks, but it does not feel like that long. Family relations is a very interesting class that I decided to take because I thought it might be fun. When I see behind, when I was choosing this class, I see a guy with hardly any idea of relationships. Even though I had a bad experience with relations, I had something present and it was that relationships need communication. This is fascinating because we talked about it in this week’s class. Communication is an important feature in every relationship because couples usually come from different backgrounds, and the body language is different. I remember I heard this story about a young marriage, the husband was late for work. It was very early in the morning, and his wife was completely asleep. He thought “because I love her, I will not wake her up. She needs to sleep.” When he came back from work, the wife was mad at him, she said: “I can’t believe that you did not wake me up to say goodbye.” The concerned husband replied: “I did not want to wake you up because I love you.” The wife then explains that because she loved him, she wanted him to say goodbye. This is an example of a different “love language.” For her, waking up to say goodbye was the way to show love. But for him, do not wake her up was the way to show love. Therefore, communication is very important. Imagine what would happen if they would never talk about this. The husband would maybe still be doing the same, the wife would be so mad at him all the time because of that behavior. Eventually, everything would explode, and it might become an issue in the marriage.

Studying in a religious school, and being a religious person, you will of course think about God in the relationship. I believe that God has the power to see everything, and He also has the power to know what the outcome of every decision will be. This is the reason for the importance of having God in the relationship. Through prayers, we can communicate with God. I also believe that God has the power to answer our prayers in a way that only we will understand and realize when he is responding. I learned this week that a married couple should have God in the relationship. It is compelling to think that a marriage will be a relationship of three: the husband, the wife, and God. This last one is important because He can tell us what decision to take so we can be the best of ourselves. Brother Williams told us an intriguing story about this insight. He said that he and his wife had two different options about places to go. They could either stay in the same place they were and keep working, or go to California so he can go to graduate school, something that Brother Williams did not really want to do, but was willing to do if God told him so. After praying and looking for answers, they could not feel anything. They did not receive any answer, so they thought that maybe there was another option. A few weeks later, his wife had a personal spiritual experience. She knew where to go. This new option was to go to another place in California. They both get together, prayed about it, and they could finally get an answer. They finally know where to go. Because of this experience is that Brother Williams is who he is. He loves where he is now, and he enjoys his life and his career.

Follow the counsel of God, communicate with your spouse or couple. I am pretty sure that by following these things, we will be able to have a successful marriage.